It’s my twenty fifth birthday tomorrow.
I am going to be twenty five years old and I’m terrified. I’m going to be a quarter of a century and I have no idea how to feel about it. I’m closer to 30 than 20. I need to stop telling people I’m celebrating my 21+4 birthday. I kinda need to get a grip and accept I’m a fully fledged adult in a long term relationship, with a house, a full time job and owner of a puppy. I need to make grown up decisions instead of relying on my music collection for answers and drinking wine to get shitfaced.
Apart from being terrified, I am happy that I’ve survived. There is a strange sense of achievement turning 25 and not having totally screwed my life up. I got to 25 with a degree, I have an alright-ish job, my boyfriend still loves me lots and my dog is relatively well trained. There are some things that I’ve done alright at.
My twenty four years and 364 days on the planet have been full of life lessons, too much gin and a lot of laughing. Here’s what I’ve learnt:
- When your Mum tells you to wear a coat, wear the coat. She’s pretty much always right and if you don’t wear the coat you’ll come back being full of flu and glares of, ‘I told you so’
- You won’t appreciate the comforts of nights in until you’ve done nights out to death. When you’re in your twenties, it’s so much more fun getting shitfaced on boxes of wine playing board games and having proper conversations than dancing in a club, freezing your ass off waiting for a taxi. Not to mention it saves the pennies.
- There’s never any excuse for people who eat loudly. I despise these people and they really need to learn to eat with their mouths closed. I also slightly hate my boyfriend for making me hate loud eaters. As a new 25 year old, I might start offering lessons on how to eat properly.
- Money isn’t the be all and end all and doesn’t make you happy. Although it helps, as long as your rent and bills are paid for and everyone you love is healthy, that’s all that really matters.
- It’s not about having lots and lots of acquaintances, it’s about having a group of really close friends. I’m a girl who has so many friends scattered around the country who I love very dearly but can call at anytime I need anything.
- Owning your own pet who you are solely responsible for is a mind field of emotions. Who knew I could worry about my dog every single second of the day or panic when he walks into something?
- Social media is only a snippet of people’s lives and there is no need to be jealous. All those fashion bloggers who look amazing and have a glamorous lives feel just as crap as you do at times.
- Harry Potter will always make you feel better and restore temporary happiness in the world.
- One of the best feel good kicks in life is spreading happiness. You like your colleagues hair? Go and tell her because I can guarantee it’ll make her day.
- There is nothing wrong with wanting to embody Blair Waldorf at times.
- Not everybody is going to like you or want to be your friend. Sometimes, you’re just not the right type of person for them. Move on and don’t ponder about it.
- You’re allowed to be a little bit selfish sometimes. If you don’t want to do it – say no. People will understand. I’ve lost count the amount of times I’ve said yes when I didn’t want to do something!
- Give people a chance before you judge them. Chances are the people you didn’t like the look of are the people who you tend to get on with
- Form a pub quiz team and make it a regular thing. You’ll be surprise how many people love it and how much you learn from it.
- Always have things to look forward to. Whether it’s a holiday, a mini break or just a day out. It really lifts your mood and makes difficult times that little bit brighter.
- You’re never alone in how you feel. There’s always someone who can relate to you and or who has been through a similar thing. Don’t be afraid to speak out as a problem shared is always a problem halved.
- The moment you get your own place, you become obsessed with homeware and late night trips to IKEA.
- Boys really, really love candles and bath bombs. They probably love them more than you.
- Your Mum will probably solve all your problems for you and she’ll always make you feel a million times better. Pick up the phone or go and see her if you feel down. She’ll pop the kettle on, make you a sandwich and put the world to rights with you.
- There’s nothing wrong with having ‘you’ time. You don’t need to be busy every single weekend or surround yourself with people all the time. It results in you wanting to kill people and never being able to catch up on your washing.
- Depression is not an emotion. It is an illness. It’s not something that everyone will experience or understand.
- In most cases, dedication and hard work will always pay off. If you want something, you need to work hard and put yourself out there to get it.
- Travel is the best thing that money can buy, (except a dog). No amount of money will ever buy the experience of being in a different place and the feeling of freedom.
- The books are always better than the films.
- Nobody has their shit together and nobody has it all figured out. We’re all just blundering our way through life one day at a time.