The Geek and I have been living together for around two and a half years. I wouldn’t change it for the world, especially as we spent a good 18 months of our relationship living 100 miles apart when I moved back to the Midlands from Lincoln. It was hard; lots of driving, working around shift rotas and lots of goodbyes, but the moment we got our first little house together it was completely worth it.
But I don’t think anything could have ever prepared me for living with a boy on a full times basis, or living on my own as a fully functioning adult with a full time job. For the first six months I kinda sucked at it. When The Geek was working late evenings, I spent at least 75% of my time at my parents house going for tea and hanging out with my Mum and Dad. Thankfully, I’ve got a little bit better but I do occasionally stop over when I’m home alone for the weekend. Sorry Beyonce, I am not quite independent woman as of yet. But, I’m getting there. Last time I was home alone instead of going to my parents, my best friend’s came up to visit. So, that’s kinda getting there right?
With friends moving in with their partners, there’s always the same advise I give and what I found with living with the Geek. I always say that you don’t know someone until you live with them and it’s a true test of a relationship. Here is what I learnt:
- Don’t compromise on furniture. My Mum told me I had to be a grown up and let The Geek pick the furniture as I picked the house. Our house has barely any natural light and he picked black furniture. I hated it 2 years ago and I still hate it now.
- Apparently every black or dark coloured sock is different and boys have A LOT of them.
- Who takes the recycling and dustbin out is a regular discussion
- Don’t questions his confusion when you’re cooking like Marco Pierre White for the first 6 months than you’re having chicken dippers, spaghetti and potato waffles the next. It’ll only end in a fight.
- If you keep your programmes on in the background long enough he will become as invested as you are. Who knew that my boyfriend guessed who Gossip Girl was before me?
- There’s huge t-shirts for sleeping and lounging about in on tap. Need a shirt to go with your jeans? Raid his wardrobe.
- Boys love candles and Lush products just as much as you. Don’t be surprised when your Lush R&B goes on his beard instead of your hair, and it’s never replaced and he has a vested interested in your Flamingo Candles Melt Crowd subscription.
- People automatically assumed that you’ll be next to get married or have a baby. Err.. no. Please leave me alone with my dog, thanks.
- Netflix and Chill actually means Netflix and Chill. It’ll consist of watching Breaking Bad with a crate of Dark Fruits Strongbow, a pizza and the debate of, ‘Do we really need to go to bed?’ after each episode.
- You’ll become that couple who discuss neighbourhood activity. Why does the man next door wash his car every single day? Is my neighbour the next Walter White or just really, really popular at 3am?
- A beer in the shower is actually a thing and only seems to happen on Christmas’ and Birthdays. And you know what? It’s amazing. I urge everyone to try it at least once.
- Despite all the weird and sometimes wonderful things that happen when you live together, the best thing is knowing that you’ve got your best friend at home and someone actually wants to live with you. Not out of convenience, out of love. You have pretty much made it as an adult. That’s the best feeling of all.