Hindsight is a wonderful, wonderful thing.
I love reading these sort of posts. I think they can be hilarious and also a bit life affirming. I also think that it’s a good way to see how far you’ve come on as a person. The thing is I’m not the only one who feels a little stuck. Not in an unhappy way but you’re waiting for the next call and the next stage.
Throughout my life, everything was goal orientated. You got your GCSEs to get your A Levels, you gained your A Levels to get to Uni but once you’ve got the degree and the job.. then what? It’s difficult. You move out, you get a dog.. then you’re stuck trying to save £10,000+ for a deposit for a house or for a wedding. You give up your luxuries and your holidays to reach this, what it feels like, unobtainable goal. Seriously, how the hell are people like me meant to adult?
But that rant is for another day. This post is focusing on what I could tell 17 year old me if I had the chance.
You did it – you got a degree, a house and a dog! Now you just need to work on getting a few holidays a year then 17 year old life goals will be complete. Though to be fair, you went to Denmark this year and are off to Majorca and Berlin in a few months time too. You ain’t doing too bad!
I know you’re a little bit of a mess right now. You’re trying to fit in with friends, still be the ultimate people pleaser and have a good time. College will be some of the best times of your life but don’t change who you are just to fit in. Don’t compromise your family for your friends. It’s not worth it and you’ll regret it. Your parents only want the best for you and they’ll be the ones who are around and will love you no matter what. When it comes down to it, you’ll change into the better version of you at University. That’ll be the making of you and you need it girl.
You go to University and it’s magical. It wasn’t Sheffield but it was better. By the way, you’re the only person who wasn’t sad that they didn’t get into their choice of uni on results day. Embrace that because it happens for a reason. You have the best 3 years of your life in Lincoln and it moulds you. Although the essays and late nights are hard work it’s nothing you can’t handle. Make sure you get involved through – don’t be afraid of looking like a prat. Get involved in every club and probably think about starting up a blog. You only went for lectures 8 hours a week and you probably could have made it. But, it’s OK, we’re doing it now.
As well as meeting one of your best friends at Uni, you will also meet your partner. You’ll never meet anyone who makes you laugh as much as he does and he completely adores you. He will always do his best to try and build you up and have an unwaverable faith in you. Remember that – because at times it can get a little messy. It’s worth it though. Life is magical with him and you’ll create a wonderful life together.
Don’t compromise who you are for anyone and try not to take things personally. Sometimes, the world is just full of horrible people. It’s not OK but you’re worth so much more than them. Don’t waste your thoughts or tears on people who won’t be apart of your future. Always think of the bigger picture because that is what matters in the end.
Oh and finally, be a bit better with money. It takes you bloody ages to learn but seriously, houses are well expensive in 2016. When you’re living at home and earning a crap wage, save it. Still go to America but save it and buy a house. Honestly, 25 year old Becky wants to kick you in the face over that one sometimes.
Oh, and don’t be a prat with your phone. 99% sure Dad is still pissed with you over it. Mum never lets you forget it either. So, er, yeah, probably don’t do that.
But you’re doing OK, we are getitng there. You may not be the size 10 with a crazy metabolism but you are a lot more grounded. More put together and settled. That’s the best feeling of them all.