Confession: my wedding was the most self indulgent, materialistic day of my life.
It was also one of the happiest and most loved up days of my life too.
Wedding planning wasn’t my favourite thing to do, but on the day I did not regret all the hours, miles, sweat and tears I put into this day. It came across perfectly, because it captured every single essence of me and my husband. It wasn’t your perfect Pinterest themed wedding, because that isn’t who we are, but it was us.
I’m not a materialistic person. I’ll always put experience over the nicer things in life so when it came to spending money for my wedding, I had to think long and hard about it. In the back of my mind, I knew it was a lot of money being spent on one single day, so I tried to give back as much as I could
It goes hand in hand with me: the biggest love in my life is my 3 year old dog: Rufus. My Dad even bought it up on our wedding day in his speech – the last time he saw me as happy as I was marrying my husband was him and my Mum surprising me on my 13th birthday with my first dog Alfie.
He was an absolute arse of a dog; he hated everyone bar my Mum, Dad, brother and my Dad’s best friend. He was demanding, ruled the roost of our home, but, he bought so much love into our lives. In his own little way, he was completely devoted to us, wanted to spend all his time with us as a family and would never let my Mum out of his sight. He wasn’t perfect but he taught me how much happiness 4 paws can bring into a home, how much having a positive presence in your life can impact on you and just how bloody awesome it is opening your heart up to something. Having a dog is so important to me that it was a complete deal breaker in any relationship and luckily, Mr T was on my level.
It was a no brainer when we were selecting our wedding favours on what we would do. As lovely as packs of sweets are or miniature bottles of gin: I was so caught up on the feeling of what is the bloody point in this? It’s wasteful. It’s just another thing to spend money on. But then, we decided to do something a little more selfless and give back to our favourite charity: The Dogs Trust.
The Dogs Trust Wedding Pins were one of my favourite parts of our wedding. We pinned each individual pin on our guests name places and had a sign on an easel in the middle of the table saying our favour was a charity donation. To us, it was the perfect balance of getting the traditional feel with giving a favour but being mindful at the same time.
They went down an absolute storm with our guests; as we mingled around the tables so many of our guest complimented them and wore their pins with pride. I remember one point dancing in the evening and each person around me was wearing their pin and I thought to myself, I’ve bloody nailed this.
And the pins people didn’t wear? It didn’t matter because that donation went straight to the Dogs Trust. Not in some huge consumers pocket.
I also kitted the bar out with 2 mini money boxes. My sister in law picked up 2 wooden boxes from the Works and we painted them and added a bit of blurb giving our guests the option to put their spare change in. All the donations went to the Dogs Trust and our guests raised just under £45. It was just a little something, in all the materialism on the day, that allowed us and our guests to give something back.
It was easily one of the best thing we invested in for our wedding and I would recommend it to anyone who’s struggling for an idea. There’s so many different charities out there who offer the same service. You can easily find something close to your heart.